Nice guys...

So I hate to subscribe to that thinking that "nice guys finish last," but I read an article a week or two ago that got me thinking. (Unfortunately, I couldn't find the article.) But essentially, this woman was writing that in these relationships that end like "its not you, its me" or "you are great, but..." and things like that, often times it is just that the guy is too nice. He becomes that friend they can rely on.

Thats why women tend to lean towards the bad guy, or at least a guy who isn't always "yeah, anything you want" or who is always there for the woman. What the hell does that mean, you ask?

Well, as the article explained, always being there isn't a good thing. Being amenable to anything she needs, always helping her out, and just being a good guy is a bad thing. Women want an independent man who will do his own thing, and wont "come under the control" of the woman so easily. She at least wants to work for it.

Well this was interesting, because through my own history, I can see this dead on. I assume more or less that I am like that in a relationship, and it makes sense that quite a few of my past few relationships ended hearing that "its not you its me" crap and that "you are such a great guy" and "you are perfect" and what not. The article just made perfect sense...fit in to what I've heard/seen. Which is what sucks. I'm supposed to be the "bad" guy now? Damn, this shit backfired on me.